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What Does Systemic Racism in Policing Actually Mean?

By Jones The Advisor / September 26, 2020 /


A Theory Based On Observable Facts

I usually try to avoid directly commenting on issues like this, although lately it seems that this particular issue is difficult, if not absolutely impossible to avoid. There have been many conversations on all sides of the political and ideological aisle about the ACTUAL definition of “Systemic Racism.” The chatter seems to focus on the idea or actually tangibility of ‘Systemic Racism.’ 

The statement that usually follows from one subcultural group, or more precisely, one part of that subcultural group is: “Systemic Racism is a myth! All White People and ALL POLICE OFFICERS, are not “inherently racist”, … “this country (U.S.A.) has made many strides relative to racial equality since we freed the slaves!” … 


… Actually, Abraham Lincoln did that; temporarily with the Emancipation Proclamation of January 1, 1863. Then with the Thirteenth Amendment to the Constitution of the U.S. on January 31, 1865 … ‘but ok … ‘we’ did it!

… This ‘subcultural version of ‘we’ ’ seems to totally neglect, obfuscate, misremember, intentionally forget, or overtly remove from this recitation of history, the fact that … between 1865 and 1965 … ala the Voting Rights Act of August 6, 1965 … ONE HUNDRED (100) YEARS LATER!!! … black people faced Jim Crow Laws and did not have the right to eat at lunch counters nor the right to vote … to name only TWO of THOUSANDS that I could name!   


… “therefore, there is no such thing as ‘Systemic Racism!’ … sometimes we have a few ‘bad apples’ as Police Officers who we have to root out of the Police Departments where they exist!” …


… Who just happen to shoot black people in the back, as they are running away, or choke them to death, or …


… “but overall, ‘Systemic Racism’ is: a myth, a creation of the ‘left winged – liberal media’, an insecurity among the people who identify with the Black & African American subculture, black people just living in the past, or a result of black people just being an WHOLLY UNFORGIVING & UNGRATEFUL LOT, who … ‘attempts to hold all white people responsible for the ‘Original United States (U.S.) Sin of Slavery.’ Y’all need to just ‘get over it’, stop tearing down OUR statues & history, and join the rest of the U.S. in the 21st Century!” …


… They also seem to think that black people … me and Senator Tim Scott to name two … did not notice that we were being pulled over by police, treated horribly, COULD NOT PERCEIVE, SPIRITUALLY DISCERN, NOR FEEL the Racism, as it emanated from the White Police Officer. 

… Not to mention all of the recent incidents where black people … who ended up dead as a result of an encounter with a Police Officer … for years had to sing the song “Southern Trees Bare Strange Fruit” because of the PICNICS that some white people … ‘after Lincoln Freed the Slaves!’ … used to throw after church, when they went to watch a Black Man hanged from a tree, for looking at a White Woman in the eye! … 

… No, the only ‘myth’ here is that we are not likely to forget THOSE THINGS … 

… ESPECIALLY when we still PERCEIVE & DISCERN Racism … more times than not when we are pulled over by Police Officers … often for no legal or legitimate reason … other than for the crime of still being Black in the U.S. …


Defining History, Racism, and Systemic Racism

Understanding all of that, we need to define what some people mean by the word “Systemic Racism”, and how they are currently using it, as it relates to 21st Century Policing, particularly in reference to Black Men. However, before I define ‘Systemic Racism’ I will define two other words that are often used in conjunction with this topic. The first is ‘History.’

Again, it is often said that the people of all Racial Subcultures, primarily young people, who are actively tearing down statues, are told to ‘stop trying to erase history! AND Stop trying to hold people living in this present day … responsible for the sins of the past, in the United States. You are trying to ‘erase OUR history.’ ’ 

Now I have written and spoken in the past about the idea that the same Human Conscience, which I personally maintain is ACTUALLY The Holy Spirit Convicting us of wrong things that we either did or were about to do; that same Conscience exists in us today. It Exists in us, EXACTLY as it did in 1619 when those Colonist, the ancestors of U.S. Citizens today, got on ships, crossed the Atlantic Ocean, and enslaved people from another continent, i.e. Africa. If it was wrong back then … then it is just as wrong now … Four Centuries Later in U.S. History. 

Thus, we can hold present day people responsible for the: sociological, psychological, Spiritual, economic, and generational damage that the Institution of Slavery and later Jim Crow Laws … basically Racism as it exists today … has had on present day members of the African American subculture in the U.S. 

Moreover, and specifically, though not exclusively, many of these wrongs occur within the area of Policing. Holding people responsible for it today is as correct as holding our American ancestors responsible for it. And we have a right to continue to hold ALL Present Day Americans who do not work for Justice For All, responsible for this aforementioned subcultural disenfranchisement, until the issues no longer exist within the African American Subcultural Community. 

People today, just as people of past generations, must learn to act according to their Conscience or according to The Voice of the Holy Spirit Living inside of them. They must CHOOSE to DO RIGHT by those who they know are suffering INJUSTICE, even if it makes them ‘Feel’ uncomfortable. As opposed to trying to absolve themselves and their Conscience by INCORRECTLY claiming that ‘the sins of the father cannot be visited upon or inherited by the son (Exodus 34:7).’

Thus, History is easily defined as past accomplishments and failures that are somehow preserved for those in the present, such that they are able to learn about and from that History. But what some people are really saying is ‘let the past be the past.’ And that is not possible, if past mistakes still occur and negatively impact Black People living in the present. 

Now to define Racism. That one is actually easy too! Most people have subcultural biases. Most people more easily relate to people who look like them, grew up in neighborhoods that were similar to theirs, speak with similar words and phrases (colloquial language) to theirs, and who have similar traditions. It is natural. That does not mean that one subculture does not like the other, on mass. It just means that we have preferences and find comfort in familiarity.

Racism is easily defined as the negative and often detrimental use of some subcultural predilection or bias. However, in order for Racism to be CORRECTLY DEFINED as Racism, it must include a base of subcultural economic power and authority. 

In short, this is why black people can be “Bigots”, but they cannot be “Racists” in the United States (U.S.). 

Simply stated, Black People only constitute thirteen percent (13%) of the U.S. population and do not have, as a subculture, enough money to be considered the Dominant Subcultural Power and Influencer in the U.S. Conversely, White People are sixty percent (60%) of the U.S. population, those who do not have any Hispanic Heritage. And in total White People make up seventy eight percent (78%) of the population, if we include those of European Hispanic Decent in that subculture (www.census.gov/quickfacts/fact/table/US/PST045219).

Thus, in the U.S. only ‘White Only’ people can be CORRECTLY defined as ‘Racist’, when they are in fact ‘Racists’, as defined above. 

OF COURSE …  NOT ALL White People are Racist

That is a numerical impossibility! It is simply NOT POSSIBLE for all members of any specific U.S. Subcultural group to ‘be’ of one mindset or predilection. White People may share similar traditions and things that they are fond of, like Seinfeld & Bruce Springsteen; but they don’t all like “The Boss!” 

And you should not speak so ill of my Family Members & Friends who are White! I am only stating that the Correct Definition of Racism can only be applied to some White People, in the United States, so long as they fit within the parameters of the preceding definition.


Systemic Racism is Inherent in the Culture of Policing

Defining ‘Systemic Racism’ is where this gets tricky! Particularly as it relates to its OBVIOUS (in some people’s opinion) EXISTENCE in Police Departments in the United States. Thus, Police Departments are or can be correctly deemed as being ‘Systemically Racist’, in the opinion of some people. 

The ‘tricky’ or Theoretical Part of the previous statement is based on the fact that you cannot, and never will be able to, prove that ‘Racism’ actually exists. That is why this MUST ONLY be considered a Theory, and not a Tested and Proven Fact. 

So, what do people mean when they say that ‘Systemic Racism exists within the Culture of Police Departments?’

First, we must define what I believe that many people mean when they say, ‘Systemic Racism.’ That term is not as easily defined as the previous two terms, History and RacismSystemic Racism means that Racism, as previously defined, exists as an Inherent & Integral part of the System where it functions, in this instance, Police Departments. 

In other words, your body has a brain and a heart … 


And as I always say, “do not try to think with your heart … because your heart does not have a brain …

(Earlism #18 I Think I Feel … – www.jonestheadvisor.com/earlism-18-i-think-i-feel/).”


… and your body is a System. Your body could not function without the heart and the brain. Those two items are Integral to the existence of the System

Thus, when people say that Police Departments in the U.S. are ‘Systemically Racist’, they mean that a Racist mindset is an Inherent & Integral part of the entire Body or Culture of the Police Organism or Organization, as it exists in the U.S. today. Thus, Racism is a Systemically Inherent & Integral part of the current state of Policing in the U.S. That is what they mean by ‘Systemic Racism.’

Thus, U.S. Police Departments would and could not exist and operate, as they currently do, without Racism


Again, IT CANNOT BE TANGIBLY PROVEN that Racism actually exists … However everyone knows that Racism does exist … because, “you can Discern, Perceive, or ‘Feel’ Racism … before you see Racism …

(Earlism #42 Perceiving Racism – www.jonestheadvisor.com/earlism-42-perceiving-racism/).”


So, when some say that ‘Systemic Racism exists within the Culture of Police Departments’, this assertion is not just based on the experiences of: Breonna Taylor, or Ahmaud Arbery, or Antwon Rose Jr, or Senator Tim Scott, or Earl A Jones, via my own personal encounters with the Police, or … countless other Black People. 

When they say that ‘Systemic Racism exists within the Culture of Police Departments’, they mean that Racism is an essential and continuously operating element, which is Inherent and Integral to the ‘Police – Body or System.’ In other words, Police Organizations in the U.S. operate, while using a Racist … heart and mindset


How Did Racism Get Into The Police Culture?

Now this is also an UNPROVEN PORTION of A THEORY, thus also ‘tricky’, even if concurrently true; IT IS POSSIBLE, BASED ON THE CENTURIES OF ANECDOTAL EVIDENCE, that ‘Systemic Racism’ is Inherent in Police Training, therefore it becomes a part of Police Culture. 

Specifically, there is A POSSIBILITY THAT there exists an Inherently Inculcated, Engrained, and Trained enmity that exists and causes SOME to MANY Police Officers to distrust Black people, particularly Black Males, from the moment they begin their work. 

THIS CANNOT BE TANGIBLY PROVEN. 

However, considering the historic and current outcomes that have existed in the U.S. relative to the negative interactions that have transpired between Black People and the Police since 1619, THERE EXISTS A POSSIBILITY THAT this assertion … made by some people … COULD BE CORRECT, relative to this Theoretical assertion. 

NO! I PERSONALLY, ABSOLUTELY DO NOT BELIEVE that ALL members of the Police Force are Inherently Racist and/or Bigoted. PERIOD! AND FULL STOP! THE END! Particularly not at the moment when they first sign up to become Police officers. 

Of Course, some show up with Racist and/or Bigoted attitudes and predilections. However, those people show up and sign up for every type of job. Now, it is the Economic and Legal Power that RIGHTFULLY BACKS Policing in America that turns THE NEGATIVE ACTIONS into Systemic Racism.

IT CAN BE POSTULATED, BY SOME PEOPLE, or CONTEMPLATED, BY SOME PEOPLE, WITHOUT THE POSSIBILITY OF OBTAINING ANY TANGIBLE PROOF, that when Police Officers are Trained and more importantly when they are themselves, assimilating into the ‘Blue’ Police Culture, within their specific Police Department, and in a larger sense, within the entire Organization of all Police, in the U.S., including those who perform Police activities at the Federal, State, and Local levels of Policing; IT CAN BE CONTEMPLATED THAT THIS is POSSIBLY WHEN SOME Police Officers are POSSIBLY Taught to distrust Black Men, while they are executing the functions and duties associated with their position. 

NOT ALL OF THEM ASSIMILATE IN THIS WAY! PLEASE DO NOT MISTAKE OR MISCONSTRUE MY WORDS. 

However, IT CAN BE POSTULATED, BY SOME PEOPLE, or CONTEMPLATED, BY SOME PEOPLE, WITHOUT THE POSSIBILITY OF OBTAINING ANY TANGIBLE PROOF, that this Systemic Racism or Trained Distrust of Black People and particularly Black Males, SIMPLY DOES NOT BECOME INTERNALIZED BY SOME to MANY POLICE OFFICERS in the U.S. today. Conversely, that WOULD IMPLY that some to many do internalize this Systemically Racist Training and Ideology.

In other words, when they are ‘out in these Streets’, Black People, particularly Black Males, are ALWAYS GUILTY and UP TO SOMETHING Nefarious! 

It Is In ‘Their’ Nature …


‘… longer heel bone in black people …’ – see the Jackie Robinson Movie – 42


Thus, a Rookie Officer, IT CAN BE POSTULATED, BY SOME PEOPLE, or CONTEMPLATED, BY SOME PEOPLE, WITHOUT THE POSSIBILITY OF OBTAINING ANY TANGIBLE PROOF, MIGHT BE taught this ideology, from the beginning of their Training.

IF THAT IS TRUE, AND NO ONE CAN EVER PROVE THAT THIS THEORY IS TRUE … BUT IF IT IS TRUE … THEN IT IS POSSIBLE THAT Rookie Officers MIGHT internalize this concept, as well as function from the basis of that foundational premise. Even if internally THAT UNPROVABLE PREMISE is in conflict with their Conscience or with the Voice of The Holy Spirit.

AND IF ALL OF THE PRECEDING IS POSSIBLY TRUE, then they must operate using this Trained ideology. That is if they want to ‘fit in’ and keep their jobs. Thus, IT CAN BE POSTULATED, BY SOME PEOPLE, or CONTEMPLATED, BY SOME PEOPLE, WITHOUT THE POSSIBILITY OF OBTAINING ANY TANGIBLE PROOF, that there COULD POSSIBLY BE, THOUGH IT CANNOT BE PROVED, a ‘Learned Enmity’ that exists between Black People and the Police.

THIS IS ONE UNPROVEN and UNPROVABLE THEORY ABOUT HOW Systemic Racism becomes a part of Policing. The fact is that many people in that Black subcultural group BELIEVE with all of their hearts, to the extent that they KNOW IT TO BE TRUE BEYOND ANY REASONABLE DOUBT, that Police Organizations do not like them, mistreat them, shoot them without cause, choke them, and have a general distrust for them. And SOME PEOPLE Believe that this has always been a part of The Black Experience in the U.S. relative to Police Organizations, according to many members of the Black subcultural group. 


And as they say … true or untrue … “Perception is Reality.”


And the main issue these days is that SOME YOUNG PEOPLE, emanating from all subcultural groups seem to be, unfortunately, striking back against the Police, with equal force and perceived ferocity, based on the enmity that SOME YOUNG PEOPLE BELIEVE EXISTS. 

The Results of the ‘war’ are heartbreaking and devastating for both Innocent Police Officers who deserve a FAIR TRIAL (that is COMPLETELY another topic). AND SO MANY BLACK VICTIMS who also deserved a FAIR TRIAL.


SO, when some say that ‘Systemic Racism is Inherent in the Culture of Policing’ … 

… That is what SOME PEOPLE Believe they mean … 

… Systemic Racism is Inherent in the Culture of Policing …

Lay Down Your “Life” … Inherit “Eternal Life”

By Jones The Advisor / September 16, 2020 /


“You’re doin it wrong …”

“… But I’m Doin IT!”

One of my ALL TIME Favorite TV Sitcoms was “A Diff’rent World.” It was a “Cosby Show” spinoff. It was set at a fictional HBCU in Virginia, and the main characters, Dwayne & Whitley, were in an ‘on again … off again’ relationship, that eventually ended in marriage. It had all of the elements that I loved: a hopeless romantic relationship, an unrequited love, set at a university, and it had lots of funny people experiencing random drama. It was like a Hallmark Channel RomCom, but with more Com than Rom.

Once when Dwayne & Whitley were having one of their little spats, he came to her dorm after going on a date with a different woman. It was a date that Whitley encouraged him to go on … because she did not recognize how in love with Dwayne she really was … but quickly became jealous of, when he came to describe the evening to her. As he portrayed the dinner and dancing date that he had just left with the woman who was now the … chief rival for her unrequited and oft denied affection for him, he said that he was doing a new ‘sexy’ dance with her called ‘The Lambada.’ He said ‘ohh it was HOT!’ … as he demonstrated the dance for her. He was kinda stiff, so he was not doing a very good job at Lambada-ing. 

She said “you’re doin it WRONG!” … 

… To wit he replied “YEAH! But I’m doin it!” … 

It was a fun filled mess caused by Whitley’s denial.


Laying Down Your “Life”

The concept of that scene stood out for me in reference to … of all things … Healing and Eternal Life. See, I often say that the thing that most often prevents us from SUCCESSFULLY moving forward into the Blessings & Promises of God is our inability or unwillingness to lay down our “life” (See my other post titled: “Pot Luck”: Why Enoch Released All of His Friends). 

In Matthew 16:25 (AMPC & MSG), it says:

For whoever is bent on saving his [temporal] life [his comfort and security here] shall lose it [eternal life]; and whoever loses his life [his comfort and security here] for My sake shall find it [life everlasting].

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Don’t run from suffering; embrace it. Follow me and I’ll show you how. Self-help is no help at all. Self-sacrifice is the way, my way, to finding yourself, your true self.

What that means, relative to this discussion is that if you want to enter into a Blessing or a Land that God has Promised you, the thing that is most often preventing us from fully entering in … is … us and our unwillingness to let go of the things that we … believe or think … are important to us. 


Drop ‘Your Life’ & Start Dancing

God had to leave the Children of Israel out in the wilderness for forty years, after Joshua, Caleb, and the other ten scouts went into Jericho to scout the Promised Land (Numbers 13 & 14:1-4). Joshua & Caleb were ready to charge in immediately … but the others were too afraid to proceed. 

… They were not afraid to proceed because they did not Believe that God had not Promised them that Land … 

… Nor were they afraid because they did not Believe that God could fulfill the Promise that He made …

… They were afraid of the GIANTS who lived in Jericho! …

They knew that God had made them a Promise, and that God was fully capable of Delivering them into that Promised Land. However, they took one look at their own stature. Then they too a look at the height & physique of the GIANTS who occupied Jericho, and they said … “we should not go up and take the land … as a matter of fact, we should return to slavery in Egypt and just forget the whole thing!” 

As a result of their unbelief and unwillingness to throw caution and their “life” to the wind … God had to make them wait until all people from that generation had died off … sans Joshua & Caleb … before a new generation would come along. This time, it would be a generation of people who were willing to lay aside their recriminating self-doubts and lack of self confidence, throw caution to the wind, and go take Possession of the Promise.

In other words … they had to be willing to lay down their “life” …

Their ‘life’ in this instance was all of the things that go on inside of us, in our soul, such as: our emotional turmoil, self-doubts, things that we are comfortable with – but things that are not Pleasing to God, … you know … ‘Our Friends.’

Dwayne knew that he was ‘in the game’ … and that was enough. He may have been playing wrong, but that did not matter to him, as long as he was willing to throw aside all fear and doubt in order to ‘start dancing.’ He feet would catch up! And even if they never caught up … his date did not seem to mind … so he kept right on dancing!


The Enemy … Within Me … Is Often Me …

Dwayne realized as did Joshua & Caleb, that it is most important to get ‘in the game.’ Particularly if you know that God has made you a Promise. And you know that God is FULLY CAPABLE of Delivering on His end. The only problem preventing you from Possessing that Promise … could be you. 

… Once you identify “Eternal Life” 

… And know that it is available to you … 

… Right here on earth … 

… You have to begin to identify what is ACTUALLY holding you back from your Blessing … 

… Often times … 

… The enemy to Progressing is within me … 

… Actually it is me … 

… And my desire to hold on to my old … familiar … ‘life’ …



John 17:13 (AMPC & TPT)

And this is Eternal Life: [it means] to know (to perceive, recognize, become acquainted with, and understand) You, the only True and Real God, and [likewise] to know Him, Jesus [as the] Christ (the Anointed One, the Messiah), Whom You have sent.

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Eternal life means to know and experience you as the Only True God, and to know and experience Jesus Christ, as the Son whom You have sent

What Is Your WorldView?

By Jones The Advisor / September 5, 2020 /

The World … The Way It Is … Ought To Be … OR … Gonna Be …


Many people have never learned to take the world the way it is …

… Why not? … 

… Because they would rather try to make the world bend to Their Will …


These WorldViewers … actually want to know … why the world is not lining up with their … often times, misguided, self concocted version … of the Dream or Vision placed in their heart … 

Then they frustrate themselves when their … typically their significant other … will not line up with the desires of THEIR heart … 

Now these desires have nothing … or at least very little … to do with the Dream or Vision that God Placed in their heart (Genesis 37:1-10) … 

These WorldViewers … literally work themselves into a knot … Yellin & Fussin at their family & friends … trying to … 

… Bend the World to their will …


… “Why don’t they see and acquiesce to the GENIUS of my Vision?” …


… ‘Because it wasn’t your ‘Vision’ to begin with’ …


… But they keep tryin anyway …

…. Always to their interminable frustration …


Now Faith is … 


… Your ability to embrace the Dream & Vision … 

… As unclearly as it was presented to you … 

… Exactly The Way It Is … 

… Right Now! …

… Without Personal Modifications OR Self Imposed Interpretations …


… While simultaneously knowing that … 

… In time … 

… The Vision will manifest … 

… The way He Wants It to Be … 

… When He Wants it to Be …


… Faith Accepts & Embraces the World …


… The way it Is …

… Not the way it Ought To Be …

… Not the way you Will it To Be …


… Rather …


… Faith Embraces the World … 


… The Way It’s Gonna Be …



Hebrews 11:1 (Phillips)

Now Faith means putting (our) Full Confidence in the things we hope for (via Divine Inspiration or Dream) … it means Being Certain … of things we cannot see …

They Are Obvious … To Them

By Jones The Advisor / August 23, 2020 /

Genesis 41:38

August 15, 2015


I never share things like this. I used to publish them in the church’s newsletter, when we had one, lol. I have read Genesis Chapter 41 literally hundreds of times over the years, in almost every translation and version. I have read that chapter too many to recall, at the Lord’s Direction. Genesis 41:38, always stood out to me, but I think that it’s fair to say that I never understood why it did. 

Joseph had just gotten out of jail. He probably should have been killed for Potiphar’s wife’s actions, but he ended up in Potiphar’s jail instead. As usual, he and his Gifts made him into the chief administrator, this time of the jail. His Gifts always ‘made room for him’ (Proverbs 18:16). Two years, plus, after being sent to jail; Pharaoh had a dream that no one could interpret. So Joseph’s Gift brought him before the King, in order to have God through Joseph, interpret Pharaoh’s dream (Genesis 41:16).

Needless to say, when God showed up for the first time in the Egyptian Palace, Pharaoh and his minions were all impressed with Joseph’s interpretation of the dreams! Then Joseph’s other Gift took over and he began to explain to Pharaoh and the fellas how to organize the pending food shortage. The minions as well as Pharaoh himself were even more impressed! Obviously, they needed a Chief Administrator to organize the mess that they were about to have on their hands.

They said in Genesis 41:38 (ERV): Then Pharaoh told them, “I don’t think we can find anyone better than Joseph to take this job! God’s Spirit is in him, making him very wise!” It was abundantly obvious to Pharaoh’s court that Joseph had the Ruach Elohim (Spirit or Breath of God in Hebrew) in him, which enabled him to not only be Gifted enough to translate Dreams that he did not have, but to also Instruct others regarding the Organization of a New Government Program!


Genesis 41:38, Names of God Bible (NOG)

So Pharaoh asked his servants, “Can we find anyone like this—a man who has Ruach Elohim in him?”


God gives us all many gifts and talents. They all “make room for us and bring us before great men, authoritative men, and the right men or people.” (Proverbs 18:16) This means that our Gifts, Talents, and more importantly Purpose(s), as well as, the things that God shows us about ourselves, will ultimately bring us into the company of the correct person and or people so God can fulfill that Purpose: Not just in our lives, but more importantly He wants that Purpose to be Fulfilled in the Earth that He might receive Glory.

Know that the Purposes of God are bigger than us to whom they have been Revealed. Know that in time you will be brought before the right person(s) of authority in order to execute and display those Gifts and Talents, so that the True Purpose can be Fulfilled. And know that the Gifting’s in your life …

… Are Obvious … To Them …

Earlism #80 Right To Act

By Jones The Advisor / July 27, 2020 /

“… You are not Entitled to Act upon …

… Nor do you have the Right to Act upon … 

… The Mutual or The OneWay Romantic “Feelings” …

… That you may have …

… For Another Person …”



… Seems Self Explanatory …

… The idea that you can have ‘romantic’ feelings for someone else. Whether they are feelings that are reciprocated or not. Yet, there also exists a concurrent … The idea that you can have ‘romantic’ feelings for someone else … Whether they are feelings that are reciprocated or not … Yet, there also exists a concurrent fact that you do not have the ‘Right’ (See Earlism #11 Right Is A Dangerous Thing) … to act on those ‘romantic’ feelings …

… Seems self explanatory …

… Yet somehow I seem to have to continue to explain it …

.… Thus, I will gladly do so again …

… A lot of people are hung up on, ‘the one that got away’ … They spend years pining away over that person … who they saw as ‘their perfect match’ … They can be married or single … but they unfortunately regret the fact that … for whatever reason … things just did not seem to work out between the two of you …

… Now, believe me when I tell you that I am not … Now, believe me when I tell you … that I am not knocking you … for ‘wishing’ that it had worked out between you two … Real Chemistry between two people is hard to find (See Earlism #79 Chemistry … Passion) …

… Heck … I have personally lost A LOT! of ‘friends’ … Two of whom I have come to call “BFFs Who Do Not Talk To Me Anymore” … 

… However … people seem to think that … 

… Just because you like someone … and God Forbid you may have actually ‘Shared a Genuine Connection’ with that other person … OR … It may have just been a One Way attraction … Because you thought that person would be … Your ‘Perfect Match’ …

.… Does Not Necessarily Mean … that the correct set of circumstances & timing existed … such that the two of you could actually … Connect with each other … And Live Happily EverAfter …

… I cannot explain it any other way … Other than to say that … ‘Sometimes Life Be’s like that’ … You do not always get to Act Upon … Nor are you Entitled to Act Upon … The Feelings that you have for someone else …

… Not even when those ‘Romantic’ Feelings are Mutually Shared …

… I have a Yet to be Published Earlism about Feelings & Busses … That I will not ‘give away’ right now …

… But suffice it to say that you have to appreciate the fact that you shared a ‘Mutually Expressed Romantic Connection’ with another person … And Believe that The Right One … Will Come Along … IF … You Are Patient Enough to Find Them …


… Think of it this way … 

… If You found that ‘Connection With One’ … 

… Then it Must Be Possible that At Least One More Person … 

… With those Qualities … 


… Exists in the World …

Earlism #79 Chemistry … Passion

By Jones The Advisor / July 12, 2020 /

“… Chemistry Is A Connection Between Two …

…   …

 … Passion Is A Stirring In You …”



The Hallmark Channel

… I have long wondered aloud … Why I LOVE to watch the Hallmark Channel … Though in reality I actually have my seasons when I watch regularly … And then I have times when I take extended breaks from Hallmark Channel Movies …

… After all … The scripts and plots are very similar … And the outcomes are generally preordained … 

… But for some reason they fascinate me … 

… My most recent fav is Fashionably Yours


… I get it … I am a ‘Hopeless Romantic’ at heart … But that does not fully explain my attraction to the Hallmark Channel …

… I finally figured it out one day …


… I like to see and figure out if the paired couple in the movie have …

… Real Chemistry … OR … If they are just scripted to come together in the end and they exhibit some form of self-directed, internally motivated … Passion toward each other … Based on what they once wrote on a piece of paper … or thought was ‘Their Type’ …

… Watching the Hallmark Channel … Is just my way of being … 

… A self-proclaimed ‘Highly Trained Observer of the Human Condition’ … 

… A Personality Portrait Stuff …


Chemistry vs. Passion

In short …

… Chemistry is difficult to define … But you know it when you see it and ‘FEEL’ it …

… You also know when you DONT have it …

Passion on the other hand is easier to spot … It is simply some internal drive to have and likely hold someone … 

… Now that other Someone may not likely nor initially return your Interest … And they generally do not share the Drive or Intensity to …  ‘Get With You’ … In the same way that you Desire to … ‘Get With Them’ … But eventually they might exhibit in return … Some SHORT TERM … Desire toward you …


Chemistry is a manifested True Connection …


Passion is just your Soul or Ego (Freud) working overtime …


Chemistry USUALLY works long term … 

… Because it is SO RARE AND HARD TO FIND …


Passion fades … 

… Particularly … If you actually ‘Get What You Want’ …


Help Me … Help You … 

… Here is one way to tell the difference … A person once told me … 

… A person that I actually, gladly do not speak with any more … 


… “You have to learn to distinguish the difference between the people who are Sent to ‘Help You’ … 

… From the people who you are Sent to ‘Help’” …


… Or Stated Another Way …

… Is there real Chemistry between you two …


… Is (s)he a helper …

… Made Just For You? …



The Lord God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone … I will Make a Helper who is Just Right for him.”

Genesis 2:18 (NIRV)

Earlism #78 The One … Just My Type

By Jones The Advisor / July 2, 2020 /

“… Question: How do I Figure Out …

… What’s My Type … 

… Who’s ‘The One?’ …

…   … 


… Answer: Look Back at Each ‘The One’ …

…   …

… Never Settle for Anything Less …”



“… How do I Figure Out …

… What’s My Type … 

… Who’s ‘The One?’ …


… What I Should Look for … Next Time … or This Time … or Sadly … Last Time? … 


… Look Back at Each ‘The One’ …

… Find the Common Traits …


… Then …

… Project That ‘The One’ …

… Into The Most …

… “Godly One” …

… That You Have Ever …

… Met … Known … or Can Mentally Conceive …


… Then …

… Never Settle for Anything Less …”

Earlism #77 ThroughOut

By Jones The Advisor / June 10, 2020 /

“… You can Choose …

… to go all the way Through …

… OR …

… you can choose …

… to settle …

… and force your way Out …”



… Staying with it—that’s what God requires. 

Stay with it to the end. 

You won’t be sorry, and you’ll be Saved …


Matthew 24:13 (MSG) 

Earlism #19 Stealing

By Jones The Advisor / June 8, 2020 /

“… If you take something that does not belong to you … 

… you are stealing … “



“And I do not steal.”


Meaning:

… If you accept someone’s false report, lie, misrepresentation of your character, misjudgment of your intentions, misinterpretation of your actions, distortion of your character, intentions, or actions … 

… If you take or accept that false statement of theirs … 

… Then, you are doing the equivalent of stealing, because that ‘lie or falsehood’ does not belong to you … 

… Do not take or accept it …


… On The Other Hand …


… If you are not AND have never been honest with yourself … 

… If you are a very self-defensive person, because you cannot accept the truth about yourself … 

… Even if it hurts …

… And make the necessary changes to your character, in order to become a better person …

… Then, you are also Stealing …

Earlism #17 Fear Inside Out

By Jones The Advisor / May 12, 2020 /

“… Fear inside … 

… leads many to …

… attempt to control outside …”



… Ever wonder why “that person” …

… Seems to be so ‘Controlling?’ …


… Fear, as well as old, unhealed, unresolved hurts and pain inside … 

… Leads many to control everything that they possibly can, outside … 


… Love contains no fear—indeed fully-developed love expels every particle of fear …

1 John 4:18 (Phillips)